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Jennifer Hacker's avatar

I’m not disagreeing with anything in your article nor the science presented. I think it’s good to be skeptical, ask questions, and decide what’s true/untrue/exaggerated/unsubstantiated/outright lies/etc.

Just wanted to add, from personal experience, my body definitely kept the score when I failed to grieve the death of my infant son in 2003. I tried to avoid grief for 20 years and my body did not go along with that plan. I had several physical issues that surfaced and after I worked through my grief, those issues resolved.

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Connor Bowers's avatar

Good takedown of bad science of Trauma. But speaking from experience, trauma can cause chronic stress and mental disfunction. It can fuel feedback loops that make life incredibly hard and painful, which is stressful, which makes it worse. And prolonged chronic stress does cause terrible health problems.

Your point about some people being predisposed to trauma is very important. It's very unequal between people. But this supports the idea that more people have trauma than recognize it. We have a cultural idea of trauma (something horrific happened to you). But the cause of trauma is overwhelming negative feelings, which depend on how sensitive you are. A sensitive person, and children in general, are more easily traumatized. For example I read a story of someone traumatized because he was falsely blamed for something as a kid and his dad didn't believe him. He depended on his dad to protect him, so it felt like a deep betrayal to not be trusted when he was scared and upset and telling the truth.

The severity of trauma also depends deeply on what happens after the bad experience. If you return to wholeness and safety (acceptance, understanding, care), you can fully express the pain and let it pass. It will leave and imprint but rarely a crippling one. But if you don't have anyone you feel safe being vulnerable with, it's terrifying and overwhelming. That's why losing trust in your family is so dangerous. It can spiral into getting more traumatized. This kind of trauma can start with a small seed and get very bad. I speak from experience.

Trauma varies in severity, so depending on what bar you set, lots of people have trauma. I agree that the point of revealing that shouldn't be to get people to obsess over painful childhood experiences. It's to help people see the conditioning in their mind that keeps them afraid, disconnected. Those can be known as feelings in the body, no memories required. And connecting with those feelings, sharing them with others, helps bring people back to wholeness.

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